Apr 1 2014

how can you have it all?

%champagnepicnic %blogI’m writing this post after being at work for the past two days from 7AM – 7PM.  These past two days (and honestly the past two months), I have been focusing on getting the most out of my career.  I got a new job at the beginning of February and have been putting my all into it.  Because I want to.  I really like what I am doing and am good at what I am doing.  So my focus has been there.  But I have a life outside of my job.  So when I leave the office, my focus needs to be elsewhere.

What am I going to make for dinner?  A question on my mind every evening on my way home from the office.  It has been easier over the past few weeks since I made it a point to plan out recipes and grab the specific ingredients I needed from the grocery store in advance.  But after putting so much energy into my time at work, how do I come home and WANT to make that gourmet meal that I have all of the ingredients for?  How do I make a meal that is healthy and delicious and pinterest worthy?

I got home late tonight and despite a long and stressful day, prepped and made a delicious meal.  While I was in between roasting asparagus, boiling water, and chopping  vegetables, I grabbed some free weights so that I could get in a small work out after we ate.  I didn’t have time for a full work out today, but I need to do something, right?  How do I get up the energy to go outside and go for a run?  Or make it to the gym for an hour or so before coming home and cooking?

While eating a salad at my desk this afternoon, I perused some of the latest online sales and Spring collections that have just been released from my favorites brands and sites.  I am in desperate need of a shopping trip to update my wardrobe for the season and also seriously need to reorganize and revamp my closet for the warmer months.  This one seems to get put on the back burner over other, more “in your face” needs like making dinner, doing the dishes, doing laundry, walking the dog etc.  How do I build and maintain a wardrobe that I am proud of from season to season and continue to keep it constantly organized and up to date?

Speaking of organizing, that immaculate home that I am trying to build and maintain?  It is a slow process for sure, though bit by bit I am creating the rooms I envisioned in our newest space.  Keeping those spaces organized, dusted, swept, and sanitized is another story though.  How do I come home from work to that perfectly decorated and clean home that I envision?  How do I always have that made bed, fresh flowers, and candles burning kind of home?

I have also been focusing way more on my beauty routine since we are less than 6 months away from the wedding (ahhh!).  This includes morning and evening teeth whitening and facial routines that involve exfoliating, cleansing, serums, moisturizers, and more moisturizers.  How do I keep up with all of the recommended treatments and newest beauty regimens on a daily basis?  Where do I get the extra time?

How do I come home from work every night and have a great conversation with my significant other?  And keep that spark alive like when we first met?  And continue to surprise each other and do little sweet things for each other when there are so many other things that are going on in my life?  In both of our lives.  How do I come home and feel sexy after a long day at work when all I want to do is put on sweatpants and slippers and have a glass of wine on the couch?

The only relationship in my life is not the one with my fiance.  My family is spread out all over the East Coast, dozens of friends that I grew up with that are now dispersed all over the world, and many of my friends live right here in my own city.  How do I keep all of my far away friends close so that we don’t slip away from each other and out of each others lives?  How do I make time for all of my friends that live in the same city as we grow older and start wanting different things?

I am in no way complaining about the “busy-ness” that I create for myself in my own life and this post isn’t meant to come off as complaining.  I am truly happy about how busy I am.  But tonight I found that I was asking myself – how can I have it all?  How can I be successful, stylish, skinny, pretty and organized?  How can I be the best fiance, the best friend, the best daughter, the best sister?

How can you have it all?  The answer is you can’t.  I KNOW that I can’t, but I still find myself wanting it.  I think it is okay to strive for perfection and set high goals for myself, as long as I am not beating myself up if my life isn’t always perfect.  To me, it is more about the give and take from each portion of my life.  When my career is doing well – my closet gets a little disorganized, and when my house gets a deep clean – I might not cook a big meal that day.  For me, it is about finding the best balance.  And as long an I don’t get to a tipping point, then I am happy.

How do you guys find the best balance in your lives?  I definitely feel like there are things I can do that will help keep me from straying too far in one direction, I would love to hear your thoughts!

P.S.  If I am finding it hard to maintain a totally balanced life now, I don’t even know what it is going to be like if we ever decide to have kids!  BAH!!

image via dear monet

One thought on “how can you have it all?

  1. I think this is something we all struggle with and unfortunately the only answer is you have to cut some things out. I used pride myself on being a well rounded person with many hobbies, yet I was never getting better any of my hobbies because I wasn’t focused on any of them the way I needed to be to get better.

    I know I’m going to get some serious hate for this but, I no longer compare my life to anyone who works from home or doesn’t work full time. I can’t throw a load of laundry in while I’m working at my office or take a few minutes to unload the dishwasher. All those little tasks have to be done when I’m home and that takes time away from working out, having fun, etc.


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